Friday, March 16, 2007

Blog, Gor, SlaveVsDominantOpinions

Well first of all a small explanation of this blog.
My other blog is more or less a wardrobe of my SL characters outfits and also of any major changer to her outward appearance.
This blog however will be more or less my tought of master slave relationships as well as reflections of Second Life.
Some things you read here you might take offence to and get mad.If you do I do not mind an IM asking for a discussion about the subject.
Senseless flaming however I will simply ignore as well as putting the offending party on the banlist and in the case of threats and outright griefing against me also file an abuse report.


First out my toughts of Goreans and Gor in Second Life.
In my not so humble opinion Gor is basically a very overrated Novelseries that isw poorly written by a hack wishing his own opinion of women would be applied on a whole planet.
The second Life phenomenon however is unfortunately even worse than the books.
This is mostly due to a large number of people not actually caring anything about Gor but simply using it to treat women like whores.
Most of these are people who are obvious juvenile little boys that has infested SecondLife even more since the age verification by Creditcard disappeared.
(I wish they took it back and that prepaid cards was no longer valid for it)
The normal approach these "role players" (yes " since they deserve not to be called that) have to females ,both in Gor and other places, "Bow down to me since you're just a lowly female and I am a superior MAN!"
Now I would preffer to show the little boy what I think of his manliness with a pair of gardenclippers however this is SecondLife so unfortunately me doing horrible things to his anatomy is not possible.
I simply have to settle for a very demeaning reply, my favourite still being, "I am sorry but unlike you I count boys like men first AFTER they've passed puberty."
Anyway the reson I stay clear of Gor is because about 95% of them is horrible roleplayers with a good taste for mediaval looking bdsm gear, but otherwise Roleplay that is so bad that the best likeness would be to have The Artist formerly knows as Prince try to growl like a death metal rocker.
To the remaining 5% of Gor Players that is actually good Roleplayers, I feel for you. If everyone in Gor was like you it would be an interesting phenomenon and I truly hope you can stand seeing your world being torn apart by the 95% of idiots that exist on SLs Gor Roleplays.
Gor did have potential but unfortunately I think it failed.



Second this time.Master and slave relationships and one of the hard parts of it...
How do you as slave in saecond life control what you want to be?
This might be a strange sentance but it bottoms in IRL BDSM.
IRL the slave is in control of the scene.
It is agreed beforehand what will happen as well as safewords to signal to the dom if something needs to change.
Secondlife is often a lot more different tho.
First of all many submissives like to have a limitless complete obediance to the dominant.
Limitless often stops being limitless when a limit is reached tho.
But otherwise it is troublesome.
How do you tell your dominant what you wish with your character without hampering the dominant?
The play in SecondLife is in some cases quite intense.
I know I would cry IRL should I lose my Mistress.
So how would I dare tell her what I want to happen to my character if It would risk clashing with what my Mistress wish?
My own will is second to my Mistress is it not?
But that will also risk that in the end I will be tied down in a Roleplay I loathe since my character has turned into a loatheseome thing I does not want to be responsible for.
So the question remain.
How does one make ones dominant understand what one want without controlling ones dom?
Does one risk abandonement due to different views of what the slave should become?
And how far does love for ones dom go, is the love enough to give up all ideas of your own that you want your character to become?



This might not have made any sense at all since it was written during a 7 hour and 35 minute long buss ride (thankyou whomever created laptops)

5 comments:

Yora Vig said...

I love this blog already! You bring up some very interesting topics to start


I haven't had and hands on experiance with gor. And I'm very thankful for that. While I am a submissive and someone who's REALLY into objectification, I can't stand the Gorean additude. The whole, woman are inferior so there for we must treat them as property BS makes me sick. I've known a couple girls who became Gor slaves, and every sigle one I talked to tell me they hate it. No I know not every female feels this way. After all, if they did, there wouldn't be any slaves for Gorean play. So, I stay far far away from any Gor area in SL. I don't even want to deal with it at all.

I do hae a few coments about the sub/domme relationship in SL. I have only ever had one Mistress so far. And the first thing she said to me when she took me on was "The sub is the one with the power." This is something I'll never forget, because it really wasn't what i thought. But it is true, though as you said some subs forget this. The sub is the one that can stop what is going on at any time the feel uncomfterable.

And I do have to agree about the intensity of this relationship in SL. When my Mistress left me, I cried in RL. I couldn't help it. I was really hurt and that suprised me. up util then, I hadn't realized how emotionally invested I was.

Your question is very valid one. I haven't found a new Master/Mistress yet myself, and this is mostly due to me not wanting the same thing to happen again. But from my personal standpoint, a sub and a domme need to talk expensivly about what they both like, before the relationship should be cemented. This will help to establish what they both like and dislike. Not the best answer I know, but it's the only one I got.

Wildefire Walcott said...

Very good post, my girl. Although you and I have already discussed some of this, I plan to respond more formally within 24 hours.

Wildefire Walcott said...

As promised, my responses to the gor stuff and the role of the submissive in SL.

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